What I’ve Learned

You don’t “just” fall in love

You choose to love

You grow to love 

You commit to love


This first one…he thought I was his. Having his child confirmed it for him. As for me, I was lost, naive and so young…

The next one…he was a cutie, older and mature and a leader. Kind of... As for me, I was lost and naive and oh so infatuated…

The next one…he was sweet, he adored me immensely…(physically) …As for me, I was lost, naive and “in love” or so I thought…

The next one…finally so very tender and real. A verbal commitment on both parts…with some minor issues…As for me, til death do us part. He woke up five years later, unhappy and left. 

The next one…he was my last one. A long awaited love, I was sure of it. So was he. But God had other plans. We quietly separated. As for me, I wept silently and moved forward…

Now this One…Absolutely one hundred percent, hands down, sure He’s an absolute keeper! He’s committed to me and I to Him! 

We’re in a mutual loving relationship and everything between us is exposed. No secrets from my past, no pretending or hidden insecurities; and no walking on egg shells. 

So refreshing, so beautiful and so very freeing. A public and bold profession of love with no desire whatsoever to be with another. 

He is definitely the One. As for me, I have “eyes wide open” chosen to love Him. And as for Him, He proved His love by dying for me! 


You don’t “just” fall in love

You choose to love

You grow to love 

You commit to love


He chose to love me

I grew to love Him

We’re committed to this love